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I’ve been so excited these past weeks and I can’t really tell why. In fact, the beginning of this year has been awesome and I’ve been feeling so light-hearted and happy with everything around me, not because anything spectacular happened!
Tell you what! It all started from two years ago.
Two years ago, I made a conscious decision to become a positive person. Yeah yeah, I know this sounds cliché. The talk about positivism is becoming overrated. I certainly know that!
But it’s different this time, trust me! So keep reading.
You see, these past years, I’ve made it a conscious effort to be positive. I’m just really excited on how far I have come on this positive living of a thing. It can be a difficult decision to make in the midst of everything going on in the world today, but it’s worth the try.
I’ve heard several people say that they are trying to live a positive lifestyle but I’ve also noticed where they may be getting it all wrong. Today, I decided it will be wise to blog on this topic because since I started making a conscious decision to be positive, I have noticed a great change in my life.
Positive living affects every aspect of your life and definitely blossoms your work-life as well. If you are unhappy or finding it difficult to feel inspired, how will you be vibrant at work? How will you be productive? How will you feel engaged at work?
Also, it’s been a while since I updated the inspiration category of this blog and we all need to feel inspired.
These are some of the reasons or ways you may be getting your positive attitude wrong and feeling overwhelmed.
1. You are constantly talking about your challenges
It’s okay to feel low about certain challenges or issues you may be going through at work or in your personal life, but it’s not a good sign to notice that you keep talking about it at the slightest opportunity. These things take a while and complaining could turn into a habit difficult to break.
What’s most important is the ability to own up to your mistakes and make an intentional decision to desist from complaining. It’s a gradual process trust me, but it can be worked on!
I’ve talked about this in the past on how to stop complaining because it can also be a workplace issue.
2. You forget it’s a personal issue
Most people tend to forget that while they may be going through a phase in life, others may have their own upturns as well. If you decide to talk to people about your issues and they are unable to help you out of it, that may also be heart wrecking for you. This could lead to more depression at your end.
For example, if you are trying to change jobs, for valid reasons, talking to everyone you come across may not necessarily get you a job. You may just come across as a nag. I believe it’s better to try searching for other opportunities on your own. This is a personal decision and others don’t have to be burdened with it. Moreover, they have their lives to live. Don’t bring down their moods with your own struggles at every chance you get.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t share with loved ones who can help lift your mood. I think it will be better to cut down on how much you share with people in general and focus your energy on solving the issue in a more constructive way. Don’t let people associate you with your problems every time they meet you. They should be able to say something good about you other than your present challenges.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Personally, I’ve come to realize that you can’t burden others with your issues because they may also have a phase that they are going through. I believe that you should be able to manage your personal issues and work towards resolving them. This doesn’t mean that you don’t need the support of people closest to you.
The pertinent question should be: what are you doing to solve the problem? If you constantly have to deal with a problematic co-worker, what steps have you taken to resolve this? How have you handled the situation so far? It’s not enough to just complain about the situation to other colleagues, you may be a distraction to them.
I have come to realize that to stay positive means action! It means realizing that whatever challenge you may be going through is a personal one and working to resolve it for your own good should be your motivating factor. This, to me, is a positive mindset, rather than complaining to the nearest person you meet at the slightest chance you get.
3. You end up your complaints with ‘..but I’m just staying positive” even when you know deep within that it’s just lip service
It’s funny that almost everyone seems to be living a positive lifestyle these days and honestly, it’s really commendable. At least, we are all trying to put in the effort, and that’s a good step in the right direction.
But if after complaining, you end up your sentence with “..but I’m just staying positive” or “..I’m trying to be..” From experience, I perceive that to not entirely sound like you are being positive wholeheartedly. You are just saying those words because that is what is expected of you: to be positive.
I’ve seen things change for me just by constantly striving to live a positive attitude. I must admit, I’m not perfect in this positive living stuff. Sometimes, I have my downsides, but I’ve seen my life change tremendously with the effort I have put in so far.
I write from the depth of my heart to encourage workers in many forms and if I see that something has worked for me in the past, I believe I owe it to my readers to be sincere.
It’s the least I can do!
A positive mindset has a way of changing everything around you, you begin to see possibilities even in worst case scenarios. These possibilities will take you to heights because you’d be determined, more than ever, to reach greater heights. To surmount impossibilities. That’s what we all need to be successful in our different areas of practice. We all need that inner energy looking out for the good in life, not feeling low.
Please take the time to build on a positive mindset and let me know when you feel a change in you!
If you want to know how to go about living positively, then check out this post on how to stay positive and mean it.
Now to you, how do you stay positive in your daily activities? Please share below.
Goodluck!
I love everything you said. Especially the last bit. A positive mindset changes so much.
On the second point you made, I think some people deal with challenging situations by talking about it. ..but just like you said, talking about is not enough, we need to do something about it.
Thank you for sharing Zinny. Have a lovely rest of the week 🙂
xo
Sauniya | Find Your Bliss ♡
Thank you, Sauniya. It’s always great to hear from you. I agree that some people may find it better to talk about challenges, but they should also work towards resolving it! Thanks for sharing.
A positive mind is key for a very healthy and lasting life.
Learning to help others in their problems as well as discussing yours with others help.
Positive people radiate a good energy and people always want to be around them. Awesome post dear.
Hi Oluwatobi, great to hear from you.
Thanks for reading, glad to know that you enjoyed the post! I like that you said we should help others when they have challenges.
Wish you a great week ahead and please join in on the giveaway taking place this weekend!
Nice write up Zinny. I feel you on Point two. Whether you have a problem or not, the world will still function without you. So instead of gloating and raising a pity party (which is hard to do now that everyone is about themselves), it is better to move on with the world real quick and avoid having to play catch up. Even when you have to talk to people about it, you should have a comeback plan you are working on. This way they are less likely to associate you with the problem, more interested in being part of your success story and willing to help.
I love your blog by the way.
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Hi Ijeoma, glad to hear that! Thank you so much and thanks for reading too. Be sure to participate in the giveaway this weekend!
You are so right on a comeback plan!